When a parent works away, it can be challenging for toddlers to cope with the separation. Here are some tips to help toddlers navigate this situation:
1. Maintain a consistent routine: Establishing a consistent daily routine can provide a sense of stability and predictability for your toddler. Stick to regular meal times, nap times (if applicable), and bedtime routines to create a sense of security.
2. Use visual aids: Create a visual calendar or chart to help your child understand when a parent will be away and when they’ll return. Use pictures or symbols to represent each day, and make updating the chart together a fun daily activity. We actually used Maltesers! I filled a jar with chocolates, one for each day Daddy was away. After breakfast each morning, the kids could have a chocolate and watch the jar slowly empty. When the jar was empty, they knew Daddy was coming home!
3. Talk about the parent's absence: Engage in age-appropriate conversations with your child about why the parent is away and when they will return. Use simple and reassuring language to explain that the parent has to go to work but will come back soon.
4. Stay connected through technology: Utilise video calls or phone calls to maintain regular contact between your child and the parent who is away. Seeing and hearing the parent's voice can provide reassurance and help the child feel connected.
5. Create a special keepsake: Help your child create a special keepsake, such as a photo album or a small object that reminds them of the parent. This item can provide comfort and serve as a tangible reminder of their love and presence. We have used the photo album idea since our first child was 2 and it has helped.
6. Encourage communication: Encourage your child to express their feelings and emotions about the parent's absence. Provide a safe space for them to share their thoughts and listen attentively to their concerns.
7. Involve the absent parent: Find ways to involve the absent parent in your childs daily life, even when they are physically away. For example, they can record a special message or read a bedtime story that can be played for your child.
8. Maintain a support network: Seek support from family, friends, or other parents who have experienced a similar situation. Sharing experiences and getting advice from others can provide emotional support for both you and your children.
9. Engage in comforting activities: Find activities that provide comfort and distraction for your toddler during the parent's absence. This can include reading their favourite books, engaging in imaginative play, or participating in fun outings.
10. Reassure your child's emotions: Acknowledge and validate your childrens emotions during this time. Provide reassurance and comfort when they feel sad, missing the parent, or experiencing separation anxiety.
Remember that each child may respond differently, and it's important to be patient and understanding throughout the process. By providing love, reassurance, and maintaining open communication, you can support your child.
Helping Your Child Adjust to a Parent Working Away
